Two Fatherhood moments to never forget that both happened this week:
First moment: in my car driving Josie to school this week…
“Daddy, J.D. says he wants to marry me when we grow up.” I kept my eyes on the road, and listened as my five year old daughter held forth. She was in a very talkative mood. J.D. is my four year old son. “But I don’t think I want to marry him.” “Oh really?” I asked sagely. “Why not?”
“Because J.D. hits me sometimes, and I’m not ever going to marry a man who hits me. I’m going to marry a man who treats me nice.” My heart swelled with pride. “And J.D. yells a lot at me, and a girl shouldn’t marry a man who yells at her. I’m going to marry a many who says nice things to me.”
I told Josie how proud I was of her. Margi and I talk about marriage all the time, and how important it is. And how important it is to pick a good man.
I agreed with Josie that it wasn’t a good idea to marry J.D. I asked her what her husband would be like. She said, “He will love Jesus and be nice to me.” I felt like a good dad. And if that’s the kind of man she marries, I’ll be happy (in a tearful, blubbering sort of way).
Second unforgettable Dad moment…
J.D., snuggling with me. I’m clothed. He’s totally naked. We’re watching the Power Rangers. J.D. feels his penis and asks, “Daddy, why is there a ball in my pee-pee?” He’s four years old, and it’s time for our/my/his first sex talk. I took a deep, cleansing breath.
“You have two balls inside your pee-pee. Those are called testicles.”
“What are testicles for?” (He pronounced it teth-ti-culls.)
“When you’re older, and after you get married, they’ll help you have babies and have a lot of fun.”
Grace: the just-in-time God-given ability to operate in the moment with the courage and love of Christ.
Grace: finding abiding pleasure in fleeting blessings.